about vadda I have told him don't mind socialising etc just tell us which location in London you are at and when you heading home , after months of going out and not texting or picking up and staying up late for him I just had it ; three chances then punishment . I think this is part of the problem when people say stupid stuff like it's different a guy can't come home with a baby errr if he doesn't keep it under control any guy can get pregnant with a random girl and then it becomes a problem for the whole family. I prefer to let them all know that I want zero grandchildren out of wedlock and preferably no sex underage or out of wedlock , no difference.
Because little sis is a preteen I need to lay done the self-respect rules for all four of them , no one should accept this BS ideology that you are incomplete as an adult if you haven't done it (same old tired lines). I don't want my boys to be hypocrites like the amritdhari boys I knew as a kid who were going out with white and black girls to use and drop, but at the same time I'm not an 1d1ot there is massive peer pressure from non-sikh and surprisingly sikh quarters.
So the rules is see how the person is as a human even before you make any kind of move . So far it's saved the twins once each because they fell for girls who turned out to be players and it ultimately turned them off emotionally because of their superficial natures . They are now concentrating on their own lives and sikhi ; love can happen later.
They also have noted how crass their mates are towards their girls and women in general and have said how they don't relate to them. The twins have intervened with a sikh girl at college who was getting physically hit by a guy who was supposedly a friend , getting her to see that she is not at fault and that she doesn't have to accept that behaviour.
Waheguru ji has done so much kirpa on us , just need some effort on my part to get through to the eldest and youngest.
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