That's an easy one. This information is readily available for Singhnis (and most women). Just ask a few free speaking, trustable adult males in your family and they will tell you all about it. There have been crews of Sikh blokes trying to warn apneean about grooming and conversions for decades for instance - but a lot of apneean have chosen to construe this as some sort of devious extension of patriarchy or a jealous attempt control their sex lives.
Us uncomplicated blokes are usually pretty straight forward with male crap like that. Especially to females within our inner circles (i.e. family). The male world's gundh is in the open for anyone with half a brain to see. As a male, you realise pretty quickly that a lot of blokes are pretty messed up and manipulative, dominating, abusive (sometimes especially but not exclusively towards women). Unless you live in a closed off environment, you soon see what can happen to dimwitted, unprotected, even partially attractive females. BUT, you can easily detach yourself from the male model being demonstrated (psychologically/mentally) by telling yourself that such behaviour is wrong and that you don't want to be like that. You recognise and acknowledge that such men exist and try and separate yourself from the model of 'maleness' they represent (or maybe you chose not to and begin modelling it yourself).
Females are different. I think it is psychologically (i.e. neurobiologically) more difficult for many of them to squarely face up the more negative aspects of female behaviour because they can't somehow mentally separate the less flattering female models being presented from themselves and their own personal being. So it's like a personal attack. That's why any discussion of such topics usually leads to serious hurts feelings, resentment, anger etc. I'd speculate that it may stem from a general female tendency to process things more emotionally then many blokes? Something to do with neurobiological hardwiring? But I could be way off?
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