I've asked this before, at what age do bibian think it is appropriate to start broaching the subject matter of CP with the youth, especially young girls?
You have to be careful with your sons, especially if they are mixed race. We aren't in a position to dictate arrange marriages in this day and age. And frankly speaking, mums have to be careful of not being overbearing with their sons (many Panjabi Sikh women are like this, naturally, and they don't even perceive it!) because in the same way abusive dads become models for the types of men daughters go on to seek, an overbearing mom easily becomes the archetype for boys who become attracted to bossy, dominating women in adulthood - I've seen it umpteen times, even in my own family. This continually locks males into dysfunctional relationships.
The whole issue of attracting females is a big one for Sikh males in this day and age, where a failure to be able to do so leads to all manner of self-esteem issues and isolation. Especially when they grow up seeing umpteen Sikh females having relationships with all and sundry.
For the record, I don't think them having 'girlfriends' makes them prone to be indifferent to protecting their sisters. If anything it may well give them an insight into female psychology that they wouldn't get otherwise.
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