Unfortunately I had to start talking to Isher when she was six because she was groped by a classmate (I told the school that I didn't want to traumatise either child and wanted to let them know so they could get the parents to advise their lad what is not allowed ) . The school was impressed at the method with which I dealt with it and Isher wasn't bothered by the lad ever again . We had to go through the whole talk about not accepting behaviour that makes us feel uncomfortable and how to be safe . Recently we had the full on talk she is approaching 9 and I can see that the fact she is in an 75% muslim dominant situ means she needs to be equipped with the truth( I never BS my kids ).
The lads are good in terms of running stuff past me , My only take on the whole thing is to be discerning , not rush headlong into stuff as Girls are teases (the pure truth) and manipulate guy's emotions to bolster their own egos . They have seen the clash of cultures so they get it when I say go for someone who is into sikhi rather than other faiths , they've been told to stay away from musalmahs as they would look to convert rather than become gursikhs . They knwo colour is not an issue just the sikhi
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