Guest ji, I have no idea who you are, but by comparing my challenges to yours, I'm not able to say that I'm in a worse position or better position than you. You see, everybody has their own problems in life and at different phases based on their past karams, or present or even through wrong decisions. Only the person with the problem or obstacles will know exactly what they are going through, and for each person the tolerance level and to be able to either deal or not be able to deal with it will be only specific to themselves and the reactions different also.
It's good, your spiritual side hasn't been affected, which for myself I can't say it's been easy. There have been times where faith has dropped and rock bottom low. But it's from realising and seeing that I'm not alone, there are others that have their own problems too.
You are the same as any soul but it's just how to deal with it that one has to learn. It's not been easy for my husband either, he never used to be as understanding, and you are right about what you said, life is full of challenges. When you think one set has finished, then something else starts. You should not compare yourself to others in regards to how your marital relationship is, as you don't know the whole story of what somebody else's is like. Nor should you think of yourself as any less than another, be positive about the future. And ask Waheguru to help you.
Somebody once said to me, that if we can't change the people around us, then the next thing is to change ourselves. Meaning change the ways we deal with thing or see them from a different perspective and I may see a change. I did try this a few times and it did work. I do try to remember to do that, but tend to forget too sometimes.
About the love bit you mention, my thinking is that it's not possible to love somebody from the word go. It takes time and may take many hurdles to create that connection between a couple. It's like in our community, one can't live with somebody before marriage to get to know the other person properly, that only happens until after marriage, and the care and love develops through time. Some takes quicker than others, but others may be later. All depends on the type of problems that have to be faced.
But as always I will say, one can only advise or give opinions, the end decisions are yours to make. So do whatever you are comfortable with, considering the ways to deal with it, try them at least and at least you won't regret making hasty decisions or make the wrong decision until you realise it's too late.
Thank you ji for your blessings too. 🙏🏻 Waheguru.
↧