Thanks a lot Misterr Singh Ji - really appreciate your time on the reply to me too.
I have to admit that I'm just a normal guy (not a perfect one) but one thing I would never dream of doing is causing a woman to cry (for any reason). So at first I thought that the fault was with me. But as the frequent episodes did not stop I started to feel that they could be manipulative acts and as I learned about BPD behavior everything started to make sense.
Yes you are right that option 1 won't ever happen and that I need to be firm for the sake of kindness in terms of insisting that she goes to her GP and gets counseling (even if I do as well). Yes I have never been horrible to her and could never dream of disrespecting her parents so she needs to have same thoughts in her heart naturally in the future, if we are to stay together.
This is what caught me by surprise - i wanted marriage to be a team win-win game (not one person manipulating the other).
So hopefully the truth of our marriage will be strengthened by counselling/treatment/kind behavior in the future.
Thank you
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