I am hearing that you have support from your elders and they are keen for you both to work things out, remember that he was YOUR choice for over two years so there was some meeting of minds , can you not reignite that ? Is there other aspects to this situation like lack of son , money problems, career/job frustrations ? Sometimes guys are angry with something else but take it out on the person at home , unfair I know but it is a common thing. Marriage is not bollywood style or hollywood movie style , it is messy, tiring, sometimes up sometimes down much like life in general , if you both want to you can make it better or worse based on attitude and words. I do not agree with the other two bibis who are quick to jump to divorce , you have a lovely daughter and a loving family (agreed they didn't initially agree but they have changed to accept) it would be very chanchal and petulant to just do that . I am not saying take bad treatment but you need to face your own faults , and confront his role in this sad affair ...you really need to find out what his take is without the pressure of family . Maybe go on a day trip or weekend away together , sometimes we go into autopilot in married life especially after kids that we unthinkingly shut ourselves out from a close relationship with our LIFE partner, stop talking , just go through the routine of life. Have a break from that and reconnect as humans , as friends. Do ardas That Guru ji opens up your hearts again into sikhi and you get back on the path to true married life...
Much love ...a veteran of twenty plus years ...stay in chardikala
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