Thank you again JKV.
And I was careful not to phrase it as "go see a shrink" and I suggested instead that we could both benefit from counseling.
You're absolutely right about the Doctor being able to recommend good dietetics and appropriate counsellors.
Apparently the crying is totally down to me - as i don't give her enough and she feels chronic emptiness which I don't solve.
She doesn't want pregnancy at this stage as it would get in the way of her pharma career (so she knows medicines).
Material progress is more important to her than than inner sukh/shanti. She has no interest in attending the Gurdwara.
I would never say that our marriage problems are 100% down to her but she sees me as either 100% the nicest husband out there or the Devil incarnate when she has borderline episodes and 100% says everything is down to me and has threatened divorce several times - despite me never even shouting at her or disrespecting her. My main faults that i can admit to are that i have a lower nocturnal drive than her, i don't believe in a flash house or swanky car being necassary to be happy in life.
That's why i have thought that maybe she can be happier with someone who can make her happy the way she wants and I could find an ordinary normal Sikh girl not into this histrionic drama continually. But at the same time I don't want her or her family to suffer on account of a divorce. It seems like I either sacrifice my happiness for her family or we try to build new lives.
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