In difficult cases like these, where you can not make up your mind, we have been given ardaas and hukamnama to resort to. Marriage is also your duty to look after another family, your own children and yourself too. It gives you a social standing and also other members of the same family to socialise with and to learn from. Physical attraction may seem to be the most important trait at the start however it will slowly start to fade out and your future will be shaped more by the virtues of your partner and not the way he looks like. Good looking ones may turn out to be vain, never know.
Each person is a complete human being with emotional aspects, religious beliefs and their own unique lifestyle. A person who is similar to you will be easier to live with. Think about whether he is vegetarian and you are too, whether his beliefs coincide with yours, he is a home person or a party animal- turning up in the middle of the night on weekends.
At the end of the day it is your choice. The right person - will ensure that you are well looked after and supported in your married life. Moreover you will both stick together, have children together and look after them together. So make sure you consider into other aspects of this Gursikh as well. It is important to think about what you can contribute to your relationship as well. Attraction and love are two different things. Marriage requires more of trust and a mature attitude rather than just wild attraction which mostly passes away once the honeymoon is over. After that it is normal day to day life - with cooking, cleaning, entertaining and making conversation which takes over. It is great to be a person whom you can see eye to eye with. Love takes time to develop. It is not infatuation with looks. (Ever wonder how and why people fall in love with their dogs)
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